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Is Your Blog Lonely?

May 6, 2010 - Last Modified: May 6, 2010 by Jonathan Beebe

Blog Lonely

Unless you’ve already made yourself into an authority in your niche, or have some really awesome connections, chances are, you’re going to face a period of… slowness!

When you first launch your blog (or any website for that matter), you was having full energy and excitement to keep the work up, ideas come easily, you have put together the best content ever, but results are not what you have expected, you keep wondering what’s wrong with your blog, and what exactly you are missing!

let’s put that in points!

The scenario usually looks something like…

  • You have a great website idea and install your blog.
  • You get it looking exactly the way you want; you get very excited.
  • You pump out a bunch of great articles, and start posting regularly.
  • You notice that hardly anyone is visiting your website; your subscriber count is dwindling around nothing and close to nobody is leaving comments.
  • You begin to feel discouraged and unmotivated very rapidly.

What I just described to you happens to just about every new blogger, but unfortunately, most (or 95% according to the NY Times) end up giving up during these “lonely days” of their new blog.

What’s the 5% Secret?

So if—for most of us—this low point is inevitable, then how do you pull through it? There must be some “secret” if only 5% of every blogger can do it, right?

The secret is self validation. The 5% of bloggers who pull through the slow days of their blog know that their blog is worth something, even if there hasn’t been a lot of people who discovered it yet. They don’t need anybody else to “confirm” to them that their blog is valuable because they validate themselves on their own.

From there, they ride the waves of persistence and consistent effort until they’re home free.

What Else Can You Do?

In the end, it ultimately boils down to YOU. There is really no way around that. You’re going to make the final decision, whether it’s to keep going or to give up, and there’s no “magic formula” for that; however, I can give you some tips that might help you to lean more towards the “keeping going” route.

  • Establish a simple, do-able posting/promotion schedule and just stick with it. You want to keep it simple to increase your chances of sticking with it. Once you get used to a lighter workload, you can always take it up a notch later, but you don’t want to burn yourself out (that can be lethal for your blog).
  • Get results faster! Guest post regularly on other established blogs, participate in forums, and leave comments on other blogs to get yourself and your blog “out there” so the depressed state of your blog doesn’t last as long. Just like in real life, if you don’t go out and meet people, you won’t get any attention. Likewise, if you don’t make an active effort to promote your blog regularly, it might just stay lonely forever.
  • Keep posting valuable, useful content to your blog on a regular basis to grow it faster. The more worth you can place on your blog in your own eyes, the more you’ll value it and want to keep pushing through.

Final Words of Encouragement

If you’ve made it this far in the article, then you’ve most likely either “been there”, or are currently going through it. Just remember that you’re not alone. Every blog (with rare exception) goes through it. The key is to seek self-validation (not external validation) and to remain persistent.

Create a simple schedule, stick to it, and actively promote your blog to reduce the duration of your blog’s “lonely” state and before you know it, you’ll start wishing your blog did have some lonely days!

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Jonathan Beebe is an online entrepreneur and list-building expert. Visit his blog for regular articles on how to make money online, building your list, and a FREE report that takes you step-by-step through the exact method he used to quit his day job. Get it FREE at the official Online Income Formula website.

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{ 37 Responses }

  1. AIDY says:
    Johnathan, You nailed every emotion I experienced the first few weeks of my blog life. You definitely hit a key point here 'self validation.' Bravo for that! It is nice to know that I was not the only one feeling this way. I started my blog, got the format all worked out, got posting at a pretty regular pace, first I got nothing in the realm of comments--then all of a sudden, I was getting comments; all about the time my server decided to suspend me for going over the 10%CPU limit. Did not know what all that meant, but I knew I was stopped from writing. I am now in the migration process with my blog to a new server and I have time to educate myself here and @CommentLuv. Knowledge is power! Thank you for sharing. :D
    • MKR says:
      I made sure to talk to my host in advance of starting my blog. They said the server is good to about 100k requests a day (but said I should consider a VPS before then). I also keep them in the loop whenever I do something that might cause strain on the server. If you have a good host and communicate with them, they're going to be more likely to work with you in situations like this. They don't have any way to be 100% sure of why the CPU load is so high otherwise, and they have to protect other customers on the server. If they know you're a real person doing things with your hosting account and not just abusing it, they'll want to work with you to keep you as a customer.
  2. Jason Jumat says:
    A lot of bloggers experience loneliness but they should be getting active and should remember why they started their blog at all times. And stick with it. A blog can't start showing any potential if the bloggers never get in touch with social media.
  3. Jason Jumat says:
    Self Validation = Being Motivated + Having passion about what you're doing . . . and the understanding that patience is a virtue considering that you MUST give time and only time to do the proper job for you to rank higher in Google. With consistency. That's what's making the 5% keep blogging.
  4. Taylor Fyhrie says:
    Thanks for the encouragement as I am currently blogging in the real estate industry which is a difficult task. The blog is growing but the comments are few. I know I need to guest post more which is the next step that will hopefully lead to more traffic and comments!
  5. Dennis Edell says:
    Simple when you think about it, it's all about the promotion. Content of any nature, good or bad, is totally worthless without it. .-= NEW from Dennis Edell @ Direct Sales Marketing´s last blog ..I Need MORE Aweber USER Affiliates! =-.
  6. Julius Kuhn-Regnier says:
    Great article! I really enjoyed reading it. And yes everyone is struggling to keep blogging, I know I am. It's hard to force yourself to keep on doing it since you don't get an immediate benefit from it.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      Exactly. Most of us are conditioned to trade something for something. Those who break out of that mentality and trust that their "reward" is coming later are the one's who ultimately are able to pull through. And those who are just so passionate about their topic that they enjoy writing about it regardless WHO's reading are very lucky. .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
      • Wynne says:
        Great article dude. You hit the nail on the head. Starting out blogging is tough. No, make that really tough. Especially as I come from a direct response marketing background using ppc, and dispaly advertising. But then I think it comes down to your motivation for bloggin in the first place. If you are in it for quick gains then you will definitely quit. But if you have other motives that are motivating enough then you will continue. For example on my blog I have a number of objectives: 1. to keep abreast of internet marketing in general, and especially with respects to small businesses. 2. to build a reputation as an authority 3. to get leads 4. to build sustainable long term income .-= NEW from Wynne´s last blog ..Use SkedgeMe to Organize Your Time and Business =-.
  7. David Leonhardt says:
    I love the advice; I just wish I could follow more often the publish-promotion schedule advice. My blogs are way too neglected because, quite frankly, they are not as important as my client's work. Sigh. .-= NEW from David Leonhardt´s last blog ..White Paper - why small business needs SEO =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      One thing that helps me with blog posts is to have a back-log of post titles, that way, at a moment's notice I always have an idea to write about. .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
  8. Colleen says:
    Our blog is certainly lonely! :( Blogging about real estate stuff isn't exactly on anyone's reading list. Real estate bloggers that blog for traffic generally get traffic from other real estate agents. We blog for search engine phrase which capture potential buyers who need a home is particular area. Kinda boring stuff! .-= NEW from Colleen@Kennewick Real Estate´s last blog ..Tri Cities Has Lowest Cost of Living in the State =-.
  9. Chadrack says:
    Self validation, persistence and consistent effort! You definitely hit it on the head there :) It's unfortunate that many give up before anything happens because of the false hope they have been fed with. Thanks for this inspiring post. .-= NEW from Chadrack@Home Business Marketing´s last blog ..$19,521.06 a month with ClickBank on Autopilot? =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      I wouldn't necessarily call if "false" hope as they can definitely make it if they stick with it... maybe it's just "false" that it's going to happen overnight or next week. .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
  10. Onibalusi Bamidele says:
    Hi Jonathan, this is really a great post. I do say it and I will always say it, I don't need people to tell me I am progressing or otherwise, even though their advice sometimes helps, I love to be sure of what I am doing myself. Thanks a lot for the great post, -Onibalusi
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      Great way to look at it Onibalusi. Also, if you're relying on others to motivate you... you're putting your blog at very high risk when the day comes that you get someone who is unsatisfied and gives you some "criticism". If you're relying on them to keep you going, that scenario could very well deal the fatal blow. Thanks for your comment Onibalusi :-) .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
  11. Gautam Hans says:
    I think passion is the key here and we have to stick with it in order to stay ahead. Also, experience has worked for me. I had a blog which 10 visits per day and i was happy. Blog promotion has reaped me great results and has increased by traffic to about 200-300%. It's the initiative that helps you grow your blog .-= NEW from Gautam Hans @ Blog Godown´s last blog ..Why Bloggers Should Use Videos On Their Sites =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      Great point Gautam! Being passionate about what you're blogging is really required for many people--me included--because for many, it's just not possible to constantly write about something they're truly not that interested in. And about your blog, I've had the honor to be a guest over there as well and can see that it's increased 200-300% from 10 visits a day. Great job Guatam! .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
  12. Ned says:
    I have made a point of going back to some blogs that I used to comment on regularly. Many have clearly burned out becuase the have either stopped posting or dramatically decreased their posting. I guess more people need to read this. It deserves a tweet and a stumble .-= NEW from Ned@REI blog´s last blog ..Mayor Rawlings-Blake, Drew Carey has a Message for You =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      Thanks for the Tweet and Stumble @NedCarey! I see what you're saying, and it's sad making comments on very active blogs that have all the potential, only to see them die a slow death gradually over time. .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
  13. Kevin says:
    Great insights shared here! I have definitely been there and I know what it feels to have a "lonely" blog. I am so thankful that I persevered and kept going instead of quitting like 95% of others! .-= NEW from Kevin@ShootingtheBreeze´s last blog ..Elisabeth Hasselbeck, reckless words & apologizing =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      Great job! Perseverance is really all it takes to "make it" blogging... because you can always adjust and get down the best posting schedule that works best for you, the best promotion methods, etc. but nothing will kill your blog faster than giving up. .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
  14. Murlu says:
    Thank you for the inspiration. I can attest that many days it can be lonely blogging. You get all excited when you see a spike from social bookmarking sites only to have it die the next day when it flatlines. The best advice I could give anyone is to think to yourself how lucky you are to be in this age where anyone with a blog has the potential to reach millions. Less than a century ago, the only way to reach such a large amount of people was through old media such as newspapers and radio. In this age, you have access to millions of people. Just this mindset alone should inspire you, you now have a voice. Regardless if many people come to your blog, it's an amazing feeling to even have just one person post a nice comment. If you work each day to write 1 post which gains 1 new comment, by the end of the year you'll have the rumbling of a community. Just continue from there, one step at a time and you'll soon have a tribe. .-= NEW from Murlu´s last blog ..5 Free Online Tools For Freelance Writers =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      WOW what a GREAT way to put it! I never really thought of it like that, but you're absolutely right. This day in age, we have the advantage of getting our word "out there" just by hitting a publish button and sticking with it long enough to let everyone know that we're serious about what we're saying. Those were some inspirational words you wrote about writing a post which gains at least 1 new comment and having a community a year later, and eventually a tribe. I love that word "tribe" and I think it's definitely something most bloggers would love to strive for with their blog. .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
  15. Agent Deepak says:
    Absolutely right and on the Point. I have many a times faced the problem of being lonely and I have always come out of it. I do not know what self validation actually (I know it but its not much of importance for me or may be I use it unknowingly) is but for me my Passion for blogging is a very big driving power which keeps me on track. .-= NEW from Agent Deepak@Blogging. Marketing & Success´s last blog ..Blog Launch Pre-Marketing – Collecting Traffic Before the Blog Launch =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      I'm not sure if you fully got what I was talking about. I'm glad to hear that blogging helps fight your personal loneliness, but what I was getting at in the article is the state of your BLOG's loneliness (e.g. inactivity, low traffic, low comments, etc). But even so, great point, blogging can be used as a form of therapy... if even in a small way. Thanks for the comment :-) .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
      • Agent Deepak says:
        Hey Jonathan, I am sorry if you couldn't get my point but I was talking about my Blog Loneliness only. I am not very good at words - sorry for that. What I meant was self-evaluation is a great way to remove blog loneliness but for me my passion for blogging has been the greatest companion in my blogging loneliness. I have great faith in Passion. This post is about how you can overcome your blog loneliness. Right? I hope you get my point this time. .-= NEW from Agent Deepak@Blogging. Marketing & Success´s last blog ..Blog Launch Getting Ready – A Day Before the Blog Launch =-.
  16. Mars Dorian says:
    Hey Jonathan, Yeah - self-validation is the alpha and the omega - you first have to massively believe in yourself before you rise to the top - it's hard work, but also incredibly fun if you are enjoying your journey ;) .-= NEW from Mars Dorian´s last blog ..How to Expand Your Online Presence, and make people come back to YOU ! =-.
    • Karan says:
      The NY Times is right. Most bloggers fail because they give up. Everyone has gone through the "slow days" if they're blogging for the first time. But if you deny statistics and go with your gut, you'll rise to authority. Great post! .-= NEW from Karan @ Trafficke SEO Services Firm´s last blog ..How To Target Keywords Using Links =-.
      • Murlu says:
        Definitely, it's interesting to see the parallels between new business and blogging. Both have a very high failure rate and they both seem to share that they end this way because the owner didn't stick through, even during the hard times. .-= NEW from Murlu´s last blog ..Make Money Online By Uploading Files =-.
        • Jonathan Beebe says:
          Wow great point! In a way, many people who start a blog in hopes to turn a profit from it (even those who were just "testing" the waters and don't want to outwardly admit it... because they're shy or whatever) are in fact starting a form of a very small business.... Imagine what else we can learn from small businesses! .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
      • Jonathan Beebe says:
        Exactly. Just stick it through and remember that everyone goes through slow times (unless you're already a well-known name out there). It's nice knowing, however, that if you DO stick with it... success is very probable. .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
        • Karan says:
          Yes, your post was very motivational to me and probably a lot of other bloggers. It persuades me to keep on going with my websites, even if 1 of them is facing a downturn. .-= NEW from Karan @ Trafficke SEO Services Firm´s last blog ..How To Target Keywords Using Links =-.
    • Jonathan Beebe says:
      You're very right, and when you finally decide that all you need is yourself, ironically that's when everyone else jumps on board and helps you out (e.g. starts posting comments, visiting regularly, subscribing, etc) .-= NEW from Jonathan Beebe´s last blog ..Fire the Search Engines; Hire Yourself =-.
      • Karan says:
        This post over at Bloggusion has inspired me the same way this post has. I welcome all webmasters to read it - How I Leaped from Pagerank 0 to 4 in 21 Days Without any Connections -http://www.blogussion.com/marketing/improve-google-pagerank/ (no spamming intended, this is not my website and I'm not affiliated with it) .-= NEW from Karan @ Trafficke SEO Services Firm´s last blog ..How To Target Keywords Using Links =-.

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